On some occasions, the harsh criticism of others can be crippling, but most often the criticism that does the most damage in our lives is our own. Self-criticism is a more deadly poison because we often don’t set up any guards against it; we have no defenses.
It happens when I compare myself to others, or when I’m embarrassed that my child d
idn’t perform up to par in public. It happens when I feel defeated after a bad day rather than determined to find a better solution. And it happens subtly, when I mutter “we homeschool” under my breath and feel as though I might ought to offer an apology for that fact.
Self-criticism is sneaky and subtle, yet overpowering. And the best way to defend against it is to stay alert to its tactics and to prepare for it.